When it comes to gift giving, there’s nothing quite
like Father’s Day.
Who among us hasn’t feigned delight in presents like loud
ties, funky slippers, power tools, nose hair trimmers, a copy of “Fatherhood
for Dummies,” screwdriver sets, bacon scented candles, barbecue aprons or beef
jerky in a bag.
It’s stuff men like as imagined by women and children.
But that’s part of its charm.
If you’re a Dad, it’s important to remember that when the
kids surprise you with something like a World’s Greatest Dad T-shirt emblazoned
with a likeness of Darth Vader, it’s the thought that counts.
Besides, the hugs and handmade cards are usually the
best presents of all.
Moms have been worshiped since time immemorial. Dads,
not so much. Now, as another Father’s Day looms, it’s a good time
to discover who put the Pop in popular.
To hear tell, the first Father’s Day was held in
Spokane, Wash., in 1910.
It was the brainchild of a woman with the lyrical name
of Sonora Smart Dodd, who wanted a day to honor her father, a Civil War veteran
named William Jackson Smart who as a single parent raised six kids.
Local pastors bought into the idea and preached the virtues
of fatherhood from their pulpits on June 19.
It didn’t exactly spread like wildfire.
There were several mitigating reasons: (1) It was, after all, Spokane, an Indian
word meaning “that other city in Washington,” a place primarily known not for
unique ideas but for being 20 miles from Idaho. (2) Ms. Dodd fled the city for
the bright lights of Chicago where she studied at the Chicago Art Institute and
undoubtedly saw things she never saw in Spokane. (3) The suggestion of a
Father's Day was often met with laughter, according to several historical
accounts. It was the target of much satire, parody and derision, sort of like National
Accordion Awareness Month is now. (4) Shockingly, many saw it as the first step
in filling the calendar with mindless promotions.
It was up to Ms. Dodd to ride to the rescue.
According to a book called “The Buying and Selling of
American Holidays,” Dodd returned to Spokane in the 1930s and started promoting
the celebration again, raising awareness at a national level.
She had the help of those trade groups that
would benefit most from the holiday, for example the manufacturers of ties,
tobacco pipes, and any traditional presents for fathers. By 1938 she had the
help of the Father's Day Council, founded by the New York Associated Men's Wear
Retailers to consolidate and systematize the commercial promotion.
Sentiment aside, there were more Dollars than Dads
driving this celebration.
In 1957, Maine Senator Margaret Chase Smith wrote a
proposal accusing
Congress of ignoring fathers for 40 years while honoring mothers, thus "singling out just one of our two parents." To no avail.
Congress of ignoring fathers for 40 years while honoring mothers, thus "singling out just one of our two parents." To no avail.
In 1966, President Lyndon Johnson issued the first
presidential
proclamation honoring fathers, designating the third Sunday in June
as Father's Day.
proclamation honoring fathers, designating the third Sunday in June
as Father's Day.
Finally, the day was made a permanent national holiday
when that
go-to guy Richard Nixon signed it into law in 1972.
go-to guy Richard Nixon signed it into law in 1972.
When it comes to family celebrations, Mother’s Day is
the gold standard. Father’s Day ranks
somewhere in between National Potato Chip Day and National Tap Dance Day in importance.
Mother’s Days means flowers and champagne brunches. Or
dinner at a place where the menus don’t have prices. Father’s Day is a barbecue
slaved over by the honoree. As one small boy once observed, “It's just like
Mother's Day only you don't spend so much."
In some places, Father’s Day takes on a life of its
own.
In Germany, it’s traditional for groups of males to do
a hiking tour with one or more wagons containing wine or beer or
other assorted alcoholic beverages along with traditional regional food. Not surprisingly,
many men end up getting drunk, according to press reports. The Federal
Statistical Office of Germany says that alcohol-related traffic accidents
multiply by three on this day.
Nothing says love like Dad, full of schnapps, lying face
down on the floor.
In this country, more phone calls are made during
Mother's Day than during Father's Day, but the percentage of collect calls on
Father's Day is much higher.
Best definition of a Dad? “A father carries pictures
where his money
used to be.”
used to be.”
Robert Rector is a veteran of 50 years in
print journalism. He has worked at the San Francisco Examiner, Los Angeles
Herald Examiner, Valley News, Los Angeles Times and Pasadena Star-News. His
columns can be found at Robert-Rector@Blogspot.Com.
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